Happy 2010 & the start of a new decade! Since this post marks the start of a new year, I thought I’d do something a bit lighthearted and fun, yet still valuable. Have you ever wondered what to say to that attractive girl/guy (whom you’d like to meet) standing in line behind you? Would saying “Hi” be enough to start a conversation, or should you try a clever pickup line?
Let’s go through your options:
- You can just say “Hi”
- Directly show your interest by saying something to the effect of “Hi, I’m a little embarrassed about this, but I’d like to get to know you”
- Conversation opener line like “[Insert your choice of pickup line]”
Which do you think will increase your chances of that person sticking around to talk to you?
Men vs. women’s reception of pickup lines
Although a humorous comment may seem like a good way to break the ice, it might not be the best time to use that pickup line you’ve been wanting to try depending on whether you’re male or female.
When a female uses a cute pickup line on a male in a bar, she gets a favorable response 90% of the time. In fact, just about any opening line from a female works well – males don’t seem to care too much about what opening lines are used, which may lead them to overestimate women’s liking for pickup lines.
On the other hand, when a male uses a pickup line on a female, it only works 24% of the time compared with a 70% success rate for just breaking the ice by saying “Hi” or directly showing interest. So guys, take note: girls don’t like those cheesy pickup lines! It’ll go over much better if you’d just be genuine and say “Hi.”
So the next time you see someone you’d like to meet, keep in mind it’s much more effective to just say hello than try to be cute… unless you’re a female, in which case just about anything you say will work 😉
What do you think – has a clever pickup line ever worked for you, or do you prefer to just say hello?
|This is a guest post by Stacey Yan, a good friend of mine. Stacey has just completed her MSW degree (also has a BA in Psychology) and is currently enjoying her off time hiking around the various trails of Southern California.|