In the previous post on relationships, we explored the human need to belong and how to satisfy that need, and today, we’ll talk a bit about relationships and how casual ones differ from more intimate connections. Before we get any further, you might have some questions about the definition of ‘intimate.’ Although ‘intimate’ can also refer to non-romantic relationships such as close friendships, we’re going use intimate to refer to romantic relationships here. Take a moment to reflect on the intimate relationships you’ve had – how were they different than your friendships? Continue reading 6 Important Elements of an Intimate Relationship→
As humans, we are social creatures who have a need to belong in close relationships. You might ask, “Why do we have the need to belong?” It may be a part of our human nature to establish close relationships with others, speculated to have evolved from the days when early humans lived in tribes in hostile environments (Baumeister and Leary, 1995). Those who formed connections with others were more likely to survive and have children, giving them an advantage and becoming an adaptive trait. Although this view is speculative, there is no doubt that having caring relationships with others is essential for a good life. If the need is not met, problems (explained below) can result. If you think about it, punishment sometimes comes in the form of solitary confinement, which is deprivation of social interaction. And being entirely alone for an extended period of time is highly stressful for most people. Continue reading How to Satisfy Our Need to Belong→
For us, today is one of those days when ‘gratis’ and ‘significance’ collide to make huge waves across multiple industries leaving positive change in their wake.
Seth Godin, the author of the Purple Cow and many other great ideas released a free ebook today containing a compilation of over 70 ideas and inspirations by the world’s thought leaders.
If you’re in need of inspiration to do great things or even if you’re burning with motivation, take some time to download the ebook and give it a quick read. I’m sure you’ll find something that will push you to take the next step.
Do you work on projects with others that require file sharing? Do you want to share files with all of your friends? Do you have multiple computers you work on? Tired of lugging around your USB drive from computer to computer to move files? If you answered yes to any of the questions above, DropBox may be a great solution that will make your life a lot more simplified and productive.
– Simple easy to use interface
– File sharing across multiple computers and users (File sharing with your friends!)
– Use it to backup files
– Able to access all your files through the DropBox website when you’re away from your computers
– Unobtrusive background file syncing
– Free 2GB of storage
The motivation formula I’ll be sharing with you today is based on the work of Victor Vroom, a professor at the Yale School of Management. Vroom explains that our motivation is based on three factors, 1) how much you want a reward, 2) your estimate of successful performance based on your efforts and 3) your estimate that performance will result in receiving the reward. Thus the formula is: Valence x Expectancy x Instrumentality = Motivation. But rather than repeating the terms used by Vroom, I’ll use straightforward terms to help us understand the formula better. Continue reading The Formula of Motivation | Motivation Series Part 4→
This is a guest post by Stacey Yan, a good friend of mine. Stacey has just completed her MSW degree and is currently enjoying her off time hiking around the various trails of Southern California.
Did you know that snacking while paying attention to something else, such as watching TV can cause you to eat much more than if you were paying attention solely to eating? Changing your snacking habits and what you snack on can help you improve your health, whether your goals are to lose weight or improve how you feel, here are some simple tips for healthy snacking.
Healthy Alternatives to Common Snacks
Seeking out healthier choices when eating out with friends at happy hour? Just because you’re at a bar doesn’t mean there aren’t smart alternatives to your favorite foods and drinks. You can cut calories just by your choice of cocktail. For example, a vodka soda is only 97 calories vs. a vodka tonic which has 159 calories. As for bar bites, be aware that food that has breading, is deep fried, or drenched in sauce is usually packed with empty calories. Opt for food that is baked, grilled, or steamed. Continue reading Don’t Become a Snack Monster→
In the first 2 parts of the motivation series, we discussed a theory of motivation called the Hierarchy of Needs by Abraham Maslow. The theory focuses on how our motivations are based on needs from basic survival to the need to be accepted by others and more. We also looked at 2 types of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic motivators (internal/external) and how we can discover what drives us.
Have you ever given thought to what motivates you? Do you do things because you simply enjoy it? Do you tend to be motivated because you have an itch for competition? Do you work hard for rewards like trophies or money?
In part 2 of the motivation series, I’ll be discussing the two types of motivation and sharing suggestions on how you can discover what motivates you. Although we usually have many factors of motivation that contribute to our actions, internal motivation called ‘intrinsic motivation’ has more influence on us than other forms of motivation. This is why many people who have succeeded in their respective fields encourage us by giving advice to “Follow our passion.” The second type of motivation is called ‘extrinsic motivation’ and is based on external factors. Continue reading Discovering Your Motivations | Motivation Series Part 2→